Hello my blogger friend
Just an update of sorts.
It looks like my Ex is going with the I’m causing my daughter anxiety defense for why she is not allowing me to see my daughter. My daughter was taken to University of Michigan Mott Children hospital on 3/19/2016 four hours after my ex told me my daughter needed to go to the hospital. the report shows that my ex is claiming that when my daughter is suppose to go with me that she gets visually upset and starts throwing up. Funny thing is I have only had my daughter one weekend since July 21 2015 and that weekend was on 3/11/2016. My ex is claiming that my daughter doesn’t want to go with me. Yet on 3/17/2016 she was taken to her primary care doctor, where my ex claims that my daughter doesn’t like my Fiancee (again, I have had her for 1 weekend since July 2015) and that I leave my daughter alone with her. The only time my daughter has been left alone is when I went to the bathroom. My daughter actually adores my fiancee, even telling my sister the weekend I had my daughter. My daughter told my sister how much fun she was having and how much she liked my “friend”.
What my ex is failing to tell others is that she has had four (4) different guys in my daughter’s life since July. She’s been engaged three times and has lived with two of those guys that I know about. On the weekend of the 3/11, My Ex made a big stink about dropping off my daughter. She has told my daughter that I will steal her and she will never see her mother again. She then told my daughter at the drop off that I was making my daughter go, that she didn’t want her to go. I have caught all this on video and it will be presented to the courts. Then when I dropped off my daughter on the 13th. My daughter was yanked out of the police station, Her mother refused to take her medication from me (Which she failed to remember to bring on the 11th when dropping off my daughter). She then went on to tell me that I would not see my daughter again and her new man told me not to waste my gas driving out to pick up my daughter again, Like I’m going to listen to a man that’s still married but engaged to another. All of this is caught on video
The simple fact of the matter is my ex is doing a very bad thing and this in itself may be causing my daughter anxiety. The thing she is doing is Parental Alienation and the bad thing is, my Ex did this to her Ex Husband with their 5 kids and is still doing it. You may be asking yourself what Parental Alienation is.
You can check out the website http://www.paawareness.org/ for more information, but this is a definition from their website.
Parental alienation (or Hostile Aggressive Parenting) is a group of behaviors that are damaging to children’s mental and emotional well-being, and can interfere with a relationship of a child and either parent. These behaviors most often accompany high conflict marriages, separation or divorce.
These behaviors whether verbal or non-verbal, cause a child to be mentally manipulated or bullied into believing a loving parent is the cause of all their problems, and/or the enemy, to be feared, hated, disrespected and/or avoided.
Parental alienation and hostile aggressive parenting deprive children of their right to be loved by and showing love for both of their parents. The destructive actions by an alienating parent or other third person (like another family member, or even a well meaning mental health care worker) can become abusive to the child – as the alienating behaviors are disturbing, confusing and often frightening, to the child, and can rob the child of their sense of security and safety leading to maladaptive emotional or psychiatric reactions.
Most people do not know about Parental Alienation and Hostile Aggressive Parenting until they experience it. Parental Alienation Awareness is put forth to help raise awareness about the growth in the problem of targeting children and their relationship in healthy and loving parent/child bond.
It’s rather sickening if you ask me. That a parent, be it a mother or a father, tries to keep their child(ren) from a parent. Every child deserves both of their parents. I have been with my daughter since the day that she was born, until July 21 2015. I cared for her, I spent every moment I wasn’t at work with her. I took her to the movies, to the park, on walks. etc. My daughter is the most important thing in my life and I will not walk away from her.
All I can ask is for parents all there to remember. Even though you and your ex broke up and decided it wasn’t for you. Remember you child did not break up with their mother or father. Children are not trophies, Child have rights and they have a right to see both parents. No parent has the right to alienate their child from the other parent.
Today I am scheduled to get my daughter for the weekend but was told that my order doesn’t give me holidays. First the order is temporary, second it doesn’t say anyone gets holidays. I even offered to change my weekend to ease any hostility.