Parental Alienation

Hello my blogger friend

Just an update of sorts.

It looks like my Ex is going with the I’m causing my daughter anxiety defense for why she is not allowing me to see my daughter.   My daughter was taken to University of Michigan Mott Children hospital on 3/19/2016 four hours after my ex  told me my daughter needed to go to the hospital.     the report shows that my ex is claiming that when my daughter is suppose to go with me that she gets visually upset and starts throwing up.   Funny thing is I have only had my daughter one weekend since July 21 2015 and that weekend was on 3/11/2016.    My ex is claiming that my daughter doesn’t want to go with me.   Yet on 3/17/2016 she was taken to her primary care doctor, where my ex claims that my daughter doesn’t like my Fiancee (again, I have had her for 1 weekend since July 2015) and that I leave my daughter alone with her.   The only time my daughter has been left alone is when I went to the bathroom.   My daughter actually adores my fiancee, even telling my sister the weekend I had my daughter.  My daughter told my sister how much fun she was having and how much she liked my “friend”.

What my ex is failing to tell others is that she has had four (4) different guys in my daughter’s life since July.   She’s been engaged three times and has lived with two of those guys that I know about.   On the weekend of the 3/11, My Ex made a big stink about dropping off my daughter.  She has told my daughter that I will steal her and she will never see her mother again.   She then told my daughter at the drop off that I was making my daughter go, that she didn’t want her to go.   I have caught all this on video and it will be presented to the courts.   Then when I dropped off my daughter on the 13th.  My daughter was yanked out of the police station,  Her mother refused to take her medication from me (Which she failed to remember to bring on the 11th when dropping off my daughter).  She then went on to tell me that I would not see my daughter again and her new man told me not to waste my gas driving out to pick up my daughter again, Like I’m going to listen to a man that’s still married but engaged to another.  All of this is caught on video

The simple fact of the matter is my ex is doing a very bad thing and this in itself may be causing my daughter anxiety.   The thing she is doing is Parental Alienation and the bad thing is, my Ex did this to her Ex Husband with their 5 kids and is still doing it.  You may be asking yourself what Parental Alienation is.

You can check out the website http://www.paawareness.org/ for more information, but this is a definition from  their website.

 

Parental alienation (or Hostile Aggressive Parenting) is a group of behaviors that are damaging to children’s mental and emotional well-being, and can interfere with a relationship of a child and either parent. These behaviors most often accompany high conflict marriages, separation or divorce.

These behaviors whether verbal or non-verbal, cause a child to be mentally manipulated or bullied into believing a loving parent is the cause of all their problems, and/or the enemy, to be feared, hated, disrespected and/or avoided.

Parental alienation and hostile aggressive parenting deprive children of their right to be loved by and showing love for both of their parents. The destructive actions by an alienating parent or other third person (like another family member, or even a well meaning mental health care worker) can become abusive to the child – as the alienating behaviors are disturbing, confusing and often frightening, to the child, and can rob the child of their sense of security and safety leading to maladaptive emotional or psychiatric reactions.

Most people do not know about Parental Alienation and Hostile Aggressive Parenting until they experience it. Parental Alienation Awareness is put forth to help raise awareness about the growth in the problem of targeting children and their relationship in healthy and loving parent/child bond.

It’s rather sickening if you ask me.  That a parent, be it a mother or a father, tries to keep their child(ren) from a parent.   Every child deserves both  of their parents.  I have been with my daughter since the day that she was born, until July 21 2015.   I cared for her, I spent every moment I wasn’t at work with her.  I took her to the movies, to the park, on walks.  etc.   My daughter is the most important thing in my life and I will not walk away from her.

All I can ask is for parents all there to remember.  Even though you and your ex broke up and decided it wasn’t for you.  Remember you child did not break up with their mother or father.  Children are not trophies,  Child have rights and they have a right to see both parents.  No parent has the right to alienate their child from the other parent.

Today I am scheduled to get my daughter for the weekend but was told that my order doesn’t give me holidays.  First the order is temporary, second it doesn’t say anyone gets holidays.   I even offered to change my weekend to ease any hostility.

Mentally Abused?

Well my friends, here is the latest line of things coming down the pipe.   According to my daughter’s mother, I’m being accused of mental abusing my daughter.  From what I’ve gathered the investigation is coming from CPS, however nothing has been brought to my attention.   Claims that the report will be filed on Friday.  Has this woman had no moral compass?   I will fight these allegations, just like I will fight every other false allegation that is brought against me.    Honestly, She is making this easy for me by proving to the courts what a compulsive liar she is.    I will fight this and let the courts decide what is true and what is false.  Hope she’s willing to bring these allegations in front of a Judge.

Letter to my Daughter

Claire,

Our weekend together was great.  It filled my heart with so much love the moment I saw you.   I am so sorry for all that happened that Friday.   There is no need for you to be put in the middle of such hatred, you are the most precious thing in the world.   I am sorry that mommy and daddy couldn’t stay together.   It has nothing to do with you, you are not the reason.   Mommy and daddy just were not happy together and the constant fighting between us was not worth you or your brother’s and sister’s happiness.

I’m sure you’re going to hear a lot of negative things about me but the one thing I want you to remember is that no matter what is said that I love you and I want to see you.   Seeing your smile when you finally got to open your Christmas presents melted my heart.  Watching you sleep was one of the most wonderful things.  Hearing you laugh and play was pure joy.

Little girl, You are meant for better things and I will do everything in my power to make sure you are ready for the world at large.   The world is a mean, cruel place.  A place that will try and break you down, but it’s my job, as your father,  to make sure you are ready to take on the world.  You can be anything you want and I’m going to support you in anything you choose, because that’s what a parent does.

Do not be a victim, Do not count on others to bail you out of things.  Love yourself and love those that help you.  You deserve so much more than you have right now, Remember you are a human being and you deserve respect from everyone in your life.  You deserve to be loved unconditionally.

Munchie, No matter what, I will continue to fight to see you, to be a part of your life and I will until my dying breath try to be a part of your life.  I will leave no stone unturned but I will do that within the confines of the law and will not lie to get you.  You are the most important thing in my life and you will always be my little girl and I will always do what I can to protect you.

Just remember I love you very much and I want you in my life.

-Your Daddy.